A letter from an anonymous mother:
"My daughter has not seen her biological dad since she was four. She’s 11 now. When she was two he contacted me and asked if I would allow him to terminate his parental rights so he could stop paying child support and I agreed. I wanted to spare her the heartache of a revolving door father and the sacrifice of the financial support was well worth him never being able to disappoint her again. I never lied to her about where he went or who her dad was. I have always answered her questions in the most age appropriate way possible.
When she was four, he contacted me and told me he had been diagnosed with cancer and would like to see her. I set aside a day and we met in the park. He had asked for two hours. He stayed 20 minutes and we never heard from him again.
Over the summer, we ran into somebody who knows him and they commented on how she looks like his other children. They elaborated that he has settled down and has a family now. My stomach tied itself in knots thinking of how hurtful that must be to my daughter. I cut the conversation short, and we got in the car to leave. That’s when I saw her smiling.
'Mom, he figured out how to be a dad,' she said. 'That’s such a nice thing. I’m happy for his kids.'
That was the day an eleven year old taught me all I need to know about forgiveness."