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Valentine's Day for the Single Person

On Valentine's Day, there's a spotlight shining brightly and directly on the part of a single person's brain that says, "Look at all the people who have someone to love them and do things for them. You have no one. You're all alone. They're special. You're not."

Know what I mean?

I used to feel incredibly wounded, intensely sad, and even angry on Valentine's Day. It was a giant reminder that God hadn't given me what I craved most. It was hard to go into work and see the flowers my co-workers would receive from their spouse. And all the pictures on Facebook? Good grief! I just wanted to crawl in a hole and come out when it was over. 

Today, my fellow single friend, I challenge you to change the direction of the spotlight. Move the spotlight from what you don't have and what you're not getting on Valentine's Day, to what you do have and what you can give. 

You do not have anyone who expresses romantic love to you. It's true.

You do have someone who is capable of expressing love... YOU.That's true, too.

You know that box of chocolates you'd like to get for Valentine's Day? Buy them. And then give them away secretly to someone.

You know those flowers you'd like to receive on Valentine's Day? Buy them. And then give them away secretly to someone.

You know that card you'd like to get on Valentine's Day? Buy it. And then give it away secretly to someone.

You get the idea. It can be someone you know - maybe another single person, a single parent, or a complete stranger. 

The point is, shine the spotlight on what love is: an action. It's not a feeling. The effects of the action of love are the feeling. And you can feel that too when you express it. No, you don't have romantic love on Valentine's Day, but you are not alone on Valentine's Day. You are capable of expressing love. Fellow single friend, I promise when you shine the spotlight on what you DO have, the sting of what you don't have lessens considerably. And you never know what secret battle someone else is facing today. You stepping out of the "Don't Have" spotlight into the "Do Have" spotlight could be all the love someone needs today.

Be love to someone today.

Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged… Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance… including Valentine’s Day.

Co-host of Afternoons with Jack & Erin on SHINE-FM.